{"id":117484,"date":"2020-05-05T10:42:59","date_gmt":"2020-05-05T20:42:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.hawaii.edu\/news\/?p=117484"},"modified":"2020-08-07T12:10:05","modified_gmt":"2020-08-07T22:10:05","slug":"tips-for-parents-during-pandemic","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.hawaii.edu\/news\/2020\/05\/05\/tips-for-parents-during-pandemic\/","title":{"rendered":"Experts provide tips for parents during pandemic"},"content":{"rendered":"<span class=\"span-reading-time rt-reading-time\" style=\"display: block;\"><span class=\"rt-label rt-prefix\">Reading time: <\/span> <span class=\"rt-time\"> 2<\/span> <span class=\"rt-label rt-postfix\">minutes<\/span><\/span><div class=\"responsive-video-wrap-post\"><figure class=\"wp-block-embed wp-block-embed-youtube is-type-video is-provider-youtube epyt-figure\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\"><div class=\"epyt-video-wrapper\"><iframe  id=\"_ytid_85219\"  width=\"676\" height=\"676\"  data-origwidth=\"676\" data-origheight=\"676\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/T7_P5QqJz9s?enablejsapi=1&origin=https:\/\/www.hawaii.edu&rel=0&autoplay=0&cc_load_policy=0&cc_lang_pref=&iv_load_policy=1&loop=0&fs=1&playsinline=0&autohide=2&theme=dark&color=red&controls=1&disablekb=0&\" class=\"__youtube_prefs__  no-lazyload\" title=\"Experts provide tips for parents during pandemic\"  allow=\"fullscreen; accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen data-no-lazy=\"1\" data-skipgform_ajax_framebjll=\"\"><\/iframe><\/div><\/div><\/figure><\/div>\n<p>Financial and emotional stresses ripple through homes as COVID-19 lockdown orders continue. That tension has left some parents feeling overwhelmed as they attempt to juggle the roles of provider, home-school teacher and counselor during an unparalleled pandemic.<\/p>\n<p>&ldquo;This is uncharted territory for all of us,&rdquo; said University of <span aria-label=\"Hawaii\">Hawai&#699;i<\/span> at M&#257;noa <a href=\"https:\/\/uhfamily.hawaii.edu\/\">Center on the Family<\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/uhfamily.hawaii.edu\/\">Center on the Family<\/a> Director <strong>Barbara DeBaryshe<\/strong>. The child development specialist offers tips on how parents can face those daily stresses during the crisis.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.hawaii.edu\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/manoa-family-coping.jpg\" alt=\"mom hugging daughter\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" class=\"alignright size-full wp-image-117487\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.hawaii.edu\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/manoa-family-coping.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.hawaii.edu\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/manoa-family-coping-130x130.jpg 130w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>Routines are comforting<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Keep a consistent bedtime and daily routine that pinpoints time for school work, household chores, play and downtime.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>Give kids a role<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Children want to contribute to family life. Allow them to help cook, care for pets, plan fun family activities or assist younger siblings with schoolwork.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>Physical activity<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Daily outdoor time does wonders. Kids can also burn off energy through active play in the living room or on the l&#257;nai.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>Maintain social contacts<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Let children keep in contact with grandparents, friends and teachers via the phone or platforms like Zoom or Facetime.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>Be loving, cuddly and a good listener<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Physical affection is a stress reliever for both parent and child. Ask<br \/>\nyour child what he or she knows about the virus or why we are staying at home. This lets you answer questions or correct misinformation at an age-appropriate level.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>Take care of yourself too<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Focus on your own physical and mental well-being. Sleeping, healthy eating, me time, virtual contact with your friends and family, exercise and\/or meditation\u2014whatever works for you in terms of helping you handle your own stress.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.hawaii.edu\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/manoa-family-coping-2.jpg\" alt=\"father and toddler\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" class=\"alignright size-full wp-image-117490\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.hawaii.edu\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/manoa-family-coping-2.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.hawaii.edu\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/manoa-family-coping-2-130x130.jpg 130w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Experts fear child abuse cases will skyrocket during the COVID-19 outbreak as strain within the home builds. DeBaryshe wants to help parents avoid reaching a boiling point.<\/p>\n<p>&ldquo;Ask for help. There is no shame in feeling at the end of your rope. Talk to your friends. Talk to your family members. Call a help line if needed,&rdquo; said DeBaryshe. If frustration mounts and a parent feels like he or she is losing control, she suggests taking a parent time out by leaving the room until you are calm.<\/p>\n<p>DeBaryshe advises parents to be sensitive to how stress affects their keiki. &ldquo;Your child\u2019s behavior is not misbehavior, it\u2019s a signal. It\u2019s communication of their fears, feelings of loss or confusion. So as much as you can, stop and think about your child\u2019s perspective,&rdquo; she explained.<\/p>\n<p>As <span aria-label=\"Hawaii\">Hawai&#699;i<\/span> enters month two of the stay-at-home order, DeBaryshe believes there is a silver lining for our <span aria-label=\"ohana\">&#699;ohana<\/span>. &ldquo;We have a lot of time together now which gives us a chance to learn more about each other, to strengthen our bonds and really reflect on our priorities and values. We all have the potential to emerge from this crisis even stronger than we were when we started,&rdquo; she said.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/sites.google.com\/eoel.hawaii.gov\/covid-19\/home\/at-home-resources-for-families\">At Home Resources for Families<\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/sites.google.com\/eoel.hawaii.gov\/covid-19\/home\/at-home-resources-for-families\">At Home Resources for Families<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/www.theparentline.org\/\">The Parent Line<\/a><a href=\"http:\/\/www.theparentline.org\/\">The Parent Line<\/a> (808) 526-1222<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/health.hawaii.gov\/amhd\/consumer\/access\/\">Hawaii ACCESS Line 24-hour<\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/health.hawaii.gov\/amhd\/consumer\/access\/\">Hawaii ACCESS Line 24-hour<\/a> (808) 832-1000<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.auw211.org\/\">Aloha United Way 2-1-1<\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/www.auw211.org\/\">Aloha United Way 2-1-1<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.uhfoundation.org\/give\/giving-opportunity\/covid-19\">Support the <abbr>糖心Vlog官方<\/abbr> Student Relief fund and COVID-19 research<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><em>&#8212;By <span aria-label=\"Moanikeala\">Moanike&#699;ala<\/span> Nabarro<\/em><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Related <em><abbr>糖心Vlog官方<\/abbr> News<\/em> stories and videos:\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.hawaii.edu\/news\/2020\/03\/24\/how-to-manage-covid-19-anxiety\/\">How to manage COVID-19 anxiety<\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/www.hawaii.edu\/news\/2020\/03\/24\/how-to-manage-covid-19-anxiety\/\">How to manage COVID-19 anxiety<\/a>, March 24, 2020<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.hawaii.edu\/news\/2020\/04\/03\/pandemic-stress-pre-existing-anxiety\/\">Pandemic stress can debilitate those with pre-existing anxiety<\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/www.hawaii.edu\/news\/2020\/04\/03\/pandemic-stress-pre-existing-anxiety\/\">Pandemic stress can debilitate those with pre-existing anxiety<\/a>, April 3, 2020<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.hawaii.edu\/news\/2017\/02\/24\/data-on-children-and-youth-spotlighted-at-center-on-the-family-symposium\/\">Data on children and youth spotlighted at Center on the Family symposium<\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/www.hawaii.edu\/news\/2017\/02\/24\/data-on-children-and-youth-spotlighted-at-center-on-the-family-symposium\/\">Data on children and youth spotlighted at Center on the Family symposium<\/a>, February 24, 2017<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p><abbr>糖心Vlog官方<\/abbr> M&#257;noa Center on the Family offers tips for parents during the extended stay-at-home order.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":16,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[26,12],"tags":[213,212,1146,1411,1416,9,56],"class_list":["post-117484","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-community","category-video","tag-center-on-the-family","tag-college-of-tropical-agriculture-and-human-resilience","tag-counseling","tag-covid-19","tag-covid-19-uh-helps","tag-uh-manoa","tag-video-2","entry","has-media"],"aioseo_notices":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.hawaii.edu\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/117484","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.hawaii.edu\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.hawaii.edu\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.hawaii.edu\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/16"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.hawaii.edu\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=117484"}],"version-history":[{"count":7,"href":"https:\/\/www.hawaii.edu\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/117484\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":124458,"href":"https:\/\/www.hawaii.edu\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/117484\/revisions\/124458"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.hawaii.edu\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=117484"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.hawaii.edu\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=117484"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.hawaii.edu\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=117484"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}